Swinging - Pros and Cons

Swinging is an age old tradition for the more freaky among us, and when don in a safe and sane manner can provide the added sexual excitement that some couples need to maintain a healthy and robust sex life. Swinging can take many different forms, anything from a simple “wife swap” where two couples exchange partners and go their separate ways for a couple hours, or a threesome where an established couple adds another person to the mix, or can be as elaborate as a good old fashioned orgy (ring a bell flower child?) where no holds barred sex is the soup of the day, and if i has a hole it is likely to get plugged by a random person.

There are obviously advantages and disadvantages to each of these situations, and your mileage may vary depending on your comfort level, and sexual desires. The two most important issues to plan for, and it's hard to decide which is more important, is that you and your partner are both comfortable with the swinging lifestyle, and that the people you are playing with all play safe. Consider this what will burst your new sexual balloon faster then finding out that the two of you caught herpes at your last party? Or even worse HIV? I'm not saying that this is going to definitely happen, but being a responsible sexual adult means that you have to take precautions to prevent the occurrence, get your self tested, use protection no matter what you are doing, and always make sure that you are comfortable with the person you are choosing to spend your night with; if you have second thoughts walk away and don't look back, the only person you will be disappointing is your self if you contract an STD.

The other important issue to take in to account is your partners comfort. Some people are willing to put their partners happiness first, and even though they don't want to take part they will to make them happy. This can be highly detrimental to the relationship as a whole, and can lead to feelings of jealousy, anger and mistrust. So always, always discuss swinging with your partner to the point of exhaustion, remember an ounce of prevention is worth a lot of cash in divorce bills.

Once you have found a reliable third, or a few other couples who “swing your way” it is worth holding on to these people. Finding a clean and reliable sex partner can be tough so treat them well and stay on their good side. Put them on your Christmas card list, and remember their birthdays; a $4 card is cheaper then the amount of money you will spend in a bar looking for another couple that fits well with you and your partner.

Above all else use common sense, if things are not going well put a stop to them, nothing is more important then you and your partners health and safety.