Masturbating as a Couple

Masturbating is such a hidden practice, it is something that we tend to feel shame about and something that we want to pretend we know nothing about. Why is this? Being able to satisfy yourself sexually should be something to be proud of, something that we celebrate rather than get embarrassed about. If you can overcome your shyness about this fascinating experience then you may be able to share it with the one you love the most: your partner.

You know as well as I do that he or she does plenty of masturbating too, so why not share it? Why not take part in mutual masturbation and get twice the pleasure out of what you are both already doing? It would be just plain silly not to.

Bringing up mutual masturbation

Bringing up the subject of couples masturbation is probably going to be your biggest stalling point when it comes to actually doing it. I can pretty much guarantee that most men are going to jump at the opportunity to do something new and exciting in bed but if you are still shy or a little worried bring it up as casually as you can. Perhaps while you are fooling around you could say something like “you know, I have never seen you touch yourself before” or “is this how you touch yourself when I am not around?” Things like that are easy icebreakers that can get you the two of you talking about masturbation, from there it is a much shorter step to talking about doing it together.

Some other icebreakers to consider:

Have you ever wondered how a woman masturbates?
Do you imagine me masturbating? Does it turn you on?
Have you ever seen a woman masturbate?
How often do you do it? How often do you think I do?

The safety of mutual masturbation

Couples masturbation is really a very safe way to have sexual relations without actually having them. Of course if you have had sex with your partner already chances are this kind of foreplay is going to lead to the heavy duty stuff, but if not, this might be a wonderful way to get closer for those who are just not quite ready to go all the way.

Mutual masturbation is a way in which both parties can feel good, have fun and have an amazing orgasm, all without touching. There is not even any need for condoms or birth control as long as the penis and its semen keep their distance from the vagina.

You can do this in chairs, on the floor, the bed or in the car, anyplace is a good place to masturbate together as long as it is not public and illegal. You can lie close to each other or play with yourselves across the room from one another, it doesn’t matter as long as you are in this together. Mutual masturbation is a very intimate and erotic way to sexually please yourself and your partner.